Anxiety
Accommodation Pattern Inventory
Accommodation Pattern Inventory
Use this directive for clients whose relational patterns are marked by an excessive focus on the needs of others. These individuals often present with symptoms of anxiety, exhaustion, or a poorly defined self-concept, stemming from a consistent tendency to subordinate their own needs and perspectives. The tool is designed to bring clarity to these ingrained dynamics by isolating the specific behaviors that maintain them.
The instrument prompts clients to inventory their accommodating behaviors. By requiring them to recall specific examples, the exercise moves beyond generalized self-perception to identify tangible moments where personal boundaries were compromised. This process establishes a clear baseline of conduct, providing concrete data points to guide treatment planning and measure therapeutic progress over time.
Accommodation Pattern Inventory
| Behavior Pattern | Frequency (Never=1, Always=5) | Last Specific Example |
|---|---|---|
| I have difficulty saying “no.” | ||
| I seek approval and validation from others. | ||
| I avoid conflict. | ||
| I put others’ needs before my own. | ||
| I ignore or dismiss my own feelings. | ||
| I feel responsible for others’ happiness. | ||
| I fear disappointing others. | ||
| I go along with others’ decisions, even if I disagree. | ||
| I feel guilty when I prioritize my own needs. | ||
| I find it difficult to state my true thoughts and opinions. | ||
| I overextend myself to meet others’ requests. | ||
| I neglect my own requirements and fail to set clear limits with others. | ||
| I feel anxious about rejection or criticism. | ||
| I struggle to assert myself or set boundaries. | ||
| I have a strong need to be liked by everyone. | ||
| I constantly seek reassurance from others. | ||
| I am overly sensitive to others’ judgment. | ||
| My sense of self changes depending on who I am with. | ||
| I feel exhausted from trying to meet others’ expectations. | ||
| I have a hard time making decisions without consulting others. |
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