Grief and loss
Behavioral Task for Sorting a Deceased Loved One's Belongings
This directive provides a structured and paced approach to the overwhelming task of going through a.
When your client is grieving, sorting through a loved one’s belongings can feel insurmountable, often leading to paralysis and avoidance. The sheer volume of possessions, each with its own emotional weight, can become a significant obstacle. This stall in a concrete task can interfere with the larger process of moving through their loss.
This directive provides a concrete structure for this overwhelming job, breaking it down into discrete, manageable steps. It allows the client to control the pace and intensity of the experience. They walk away with a sense of progress and a way to engage with the memories attached to these objects, rather than simply being controlled by them.
Behavioral Task for Sorting a Deceased Loved One's Belongings
Choose a single, small physical space to work in, such as one drawer, one shelf, or a single box of items. Do not choose an entire room.
Before you begin, set a timer for 20 minutes.
Get four empty boxes or containers. Use the table below to understand the function of each one.
When you start the timer, pick up one item at a time. Place it into one of the four boxes. Make a quick decision and move to the next item. The “Decide Later” box is for any item that causes you to pause.
When the timer sounds, stop work. Close the boxes or cover them. Leave the space until your next scheduled time. You will only work on this task during these timed periods.
| Box Label | Purpose of this Box |
|---|---|
| Keep | For items you will take for your own use or possession. |
| Re-home | For items to be given to other people or organizations. |
| Release | For items that will be discarded or recycled. |
| Decide Later | For any item you cannot place in the first three boxes right now. |
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